Power Hours for your Direct Sales Business

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So many people sign up for Direct Sales with the assumption that they won’t really have to work.

If you’re in this for a hobby, that is an absolute truth: you really don’t have to work at it.

If you’re in this to make an income or achieve a financial goal: you couldn’t be farther from the truth.

You can’t expect to make a substantial difference in your finances if you’re not willing to put in the work to get it.

Using Power Hours can help you run your business in 20 minutes a day.

If you’re not willing to work 20 focused minutes a week, in certain areas of your business, then quite frankly-you don’t DESERVE that paycheck you’re complaining about NOT GETTING!

People ask me ALL THE TIME…how do you do it. I’m sorry to inform you, there is no secret. It’s hard work. That’s it.

Tried and true, get up and get to work every single day. The RENT IS DUE EVERY SINGLE DAY. You want to make money in this business, PUT IN THE WORK. People seem to want the benefits without the commitment. You can’t have one or the other. You get exactly what you put into this business. Plain and simple. I don’t do magic tricks. I don’t do anything YOU can’t do. I don’t skate by on my good looks and charm, trust me, I live 90% of my life covered in babies bodily fluids and food. You just have to get to work.


Take 20 minutes a day. Dedicate 20 minutes to ONE of 5 focused tasks per day.

  1. Booking
  2. Customer Service
  3. Recruiting
  4. Marketing
  5. Hostess Coaching

Monday Booking:

Spend 20 minutes working on booking parties. Whether these are Facebook parties or home shows, you still have to ASK. Spend this 20 minutes:

~personally reaching out to people

~creating a game or graphic to book

~do a FB live talking about the hostess special

~contact PAST hostesses from the previous years

~make hostess packets and post a picture on social media-and make them COOL so everyone wants one!

There’s a million things you could do.


Tuesday Customer Service:

Spend 20 minutes creating a buzz.

~send a thank you email to anyone who has ordered in the last week

~contact each person who ordered the previous month and make sure they’re happy with their product (and have you seen the new specials?)

~contact anyone who has open orders and make sure they knew about the customer specials if they didn’t order one

~go comment on all your open parties and start some conversations with the guests

~scroll through Facebook and actually interact with your customers on THEIR pages


Wednesday Recruiting:

~touch base with all your new consultants within the last 3 months

~reach out to any potential consultants

~don’t have any potential consultants? create an opportunity event and GET ONE!

~put some pins on Pinterest about joining

~create a youtube video or FB live about joining…then share into all your FB parties!


Thursday Marketing:

This is all social media to me. Sharing my love of my product on all the different social media sites. And because I love it, this isn’t even work. This is my play time!

~schedule some tweets in Cinchshare

~pin some things from your Cinchshare history onto Pinterest

~schedule some Instagram posts onto Twitter/FB business page

~go post your social media links in all your parties

~create a contest on a social media channel and direct all your customers to it

~create a newsletter to email your customers


Friday Hostess Coaching:

Spend 20 minutes contacting every hostess.

~ask them if they need any extra order forms or catalogs

~tell them what their total is for online orders so far

~give them a task to do that day: post this, tag 3 friends on some posts in your party, or text this to 3 people today

~tell them how much farther they are from the next level and TELL THEM HOW TO GET THERE!


This is just a small breakdown of a HUGE list you should already have! 20 minutes a day. If I can do it, YOU can do it!

Melissa Fietsam

Don’t Overcomplicate Leadership in Direct Sales

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4 Tips to Uncomplicate Your Leadership Role in Direct Sales

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1. Lead From the Front:

You cannot expect your team to do things YOU are not doing. So lead from the front! Set goals in your own business and SHOW your team what you’re doing! You should be posting a minimum of TWO times a day in your team page. What kinds of things?

  1. Company updates
  2. Company incentives
  3. Resources
  4. Trainings
  5. And what YOU are doing

It’s really quite easy to lead from the front when you are actually working everyday. Making hostess packets? Post a picture on your team page! Just had a recruiting conversation? Snap a pic and post it to your team. Give them the WORDS. And show them you’re getting results because you’re working.

2. Trainings Don’t Have to be Hard:

In fact, they don’t have to be from YOU at all! Do you know how many trainings are already out there? You don’t have to come up with the trainings, it’s simply your job to make sure they have access to them!

Find people who inspire you. Follow them on Facebook and their blog. Google! It’s your best friend!

And here’s a couple of sites that have trainings and tips already laid out for you to SHARE with your team!

Cinchshare: Go to the events tab link here and you can find dozens of trainings on any topic you can think of. And those events can be shared, and your team can go back through all of that great information at ANY TIME! And you know what? They hold WEEKLY live Facebook trainings from experts in the field. So you can invite your team to a new training every single week! When I realized this, it was a huge relief to me. I don’t have to come up with all that on my own!

Cinchshare EVENTS TAB:

Cinch Socials: This is a Facebook page with nothing but direct sales tips. Go over and LIKE and FOLLOW the page and you can share a tip daily in your team page. EASY PEEZY!

Cinch Socials Page:

3. Keep it Positive and Set the Pace:

Set the TONE for your team. Don’t know where to start?

Use the description on your team page to set the expectation for the team. A place to encourage and lift eachother up. To share ideas and celebrate our team members. Do they KNOW what you want? Have you ever told them your vision for your team? It’s kind of important.

Then set the rules. Monthly, I post the same post. It talks about the rules of the page. No complaining, no selling, and be nice. That’s the gist of it. But it’s long and detailed and I give them instructions on how to word their feelings if they are frustrated. And the chain of contact to actually vent those frustrations and get results, privately, in a message to their upline. They don’t know if you don’t TELL them.

And third, you better STICK TO IT. No excuses. Delete any posts that violate this and send a personal and thoughtful message with a positive tone, to anyone who goes against that. You might get some resistance at first, but after that, you will have the positive, working environment you crave. And your team members will be happy you did it! There is NO place for negativity on a team page.

4. Schedule Your Time:

Time blocking is essential to leadership…and your business truthfully. Consistency is the key to leadership. Simply showing up no matter what.

You should have at LEAST 20 minutes a day to work on your personal business and 20 minutes a day to work on your team.


Monday: contact all new consultants who have joined in the last week, or even the last few months. Send out new consultant letters/email/packets

Tuesday: Training. Share some kind of training, remember, doesn’t have to be yours!

Wednesday: Celebrate earners, promotions, new consultant goals/programs, company incentives, whatever it may be

Thursday: connect with your upcoming leaders. Doesn’t mean they have to have a title. Some of my best leaders don’t have a title yet to prove it. CONNECT

Friday: Plan of action. Give them something to DO. And the steps to do it. Let’s all make these hostess packets. Let’s all connect with 5 past hostesses this weekend.

See…it doesn’t have to be hard. We’re not all born leaders. I know I wasn’t. I had to work hard at figuring all this out. And work harder to realize that…I was making it too complicated. It’s not. So don’t make it be!

Much love and hugs!

Melissa Fietsam



Promotion Gifts for Direct Sales Consultants

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Celebrating your girls when they promote up the leadership ladder in your company is SO important!

It takes a lot of hard work and dedication to get there, and YOU should be celebrating that!

I use this company that creates these promotion blocks for me. They cost $15…that’s it!!

So if you’re looking for something that’s easy on the budget, but something they will cherish forever, check these out! Go to there page and “like” it so you can always find them when you need to!:


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Melissa Fietsam,

Ind. Executive Director at Thirty-One Gifts

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Tag and Tell Posts for Your Direct Sales Business

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I love doing these kinds of posts. And I simply wanted to give you some thought behind WHY I do them and some tips on HOW to do them.

I posted this on my main Facebook timeline and my closed customer group. This particular one was for Valentines Day:


Now, you want to be very careful about your wording in the actual POST. Facebook does NOT like certain words: tag, tag a friend, giveaway, share this post, etc. Things like that will flag your post in facebook algorithms. And it will be less likely to show up in people’s newsfeeds.

So here is what I posted with the picture above:

I would love to surprise someone today! Nominate someone who you LOVE and deserves something special on Valentine’s Day!
I’m going to make up a special little package for one lucky person! Simply my way of sharing some love today.

Why do I do this?

  1. I get to bless someone’s day and make 2 people feel AMAZING!
  2. It helps me spread my business
  3. It tags someone ELSE who may not know about me or my business
  4. Everyone who is tagged, it shows up in THEIR newsfeed so THEY see it
  5. I get to send a gift, a catalog, and all my information.
  6. The person I send it to is blessed, and will never forget me
  7. The person who NOMINATED that person is blessed and will never forget that
  8. When you connect the heartstrings into your business, you will create lasting customers and friends

So have fun with your holidays!! And incorporate your business in a fun way:)

Melissa Fietsam, Ind. Senior Executive Director at Thirty-One Gifts

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Happy New Year!

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Happy New Year.

Today is the first blank page of a 365 page book.

Write a good one!


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Thirty-One Holiday Facebook Party Script for November and December

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So I tried something new with my Thirty-One Facebook parties. I really wanted to focus on SIMPLE~EASY~FUN. But I also was struggling with 2 weeks events. That’s a lot of work on my part.  I needed easy and structured. So I encourage you to write an outline like I have, figure out what YOU want to share with your customers, and tailor it according to your own needs and customers. And remember, each party is different. Always ask your hostess what kind of guests she has: nurses/ teachers? You’ll want to post things that tailor to THEM.

**below you will find my entire 7 day Facebook script for November and December 2015 with all images.

I want to make it FUN for my hostesses and guests!!

So this is my 7 day holiday Facebook party I have created:

1. 3 posts a day

2. I post using, so I can pre-post all of those

3. I post at 9am, 2pm, and 7pm each day

4. I close the event 2 days before their actual party closes. WHY? Because I want to give them time to round up orders for those last 2 days, and it just helps me plan exact dates to start and stop those events.

I do a Facebook event the same way for every party. Whether they are having a home show, a catalog show, a Fundraiser, or a Facebook Party. They all get the same 7 day event. This is my way to get in front of as many people as I possibly can!

I focused on the product lines I wanted to showcase, booking seeds, recruiting seeds, and lead generation (getting follow up information).

I wrote down a list of absolutely everything I wanted to post in a FB event. And this is the outline I ended up with:

PRE-POSTS (I load these before I invite my host and before she invites all her friends)

1. Introduction to ME (always include a picture)

2. Bundle pictures to show what they can get and let them browse products

**this particular holiday outline is not as structured as the one below because it is for the holidays and focusing on gifts!

**some of these pictures are my own, and some are pulled from other fabulous ladies who have shared their creative genius with the rest of us! Thank you if that is YOU.


1. Introduction to FB party: what to expect from ME

2. Customer Special

3.  Holiday Post: pictures to show how they could order 31 for events they already have going on (for instance, right now I posted Father’s day gift ideas, wedding gift ideas, and graduation gift ideas)


1. Roll Call

2. Utility Totes

3. Sports and Spirit line


1. Fundraisers

2. Jewel Kade by Thirty-One

3. Accessories


1. Recruiting

2. Wallets

3. Wristlet straps


1. Booking

2. Home Organization

3. Kitchen Organization


1. Birthday Survey

2. Crossbody Purses

3. Big Bag Purses


1. How to order

2. Thermals

3. Customer special

Here is my example for the DESCRIPTION of the Holiday FB event:

Sheryl is hosting a Thirty-One Holiday Party! And we cannot wait to show you all the amazing gift ideas for you, your friends, and your family this season.

Want to view the whole catalog online? Just click here and you can view it on your phone or computer:

December customer special:

For every $35 you spend, you can choose up to THREE of these gifts at a GREAT price:

Littles Carry All: $5

Mini zipper pouch: $5

Streetstyle purse: $25

Stand Tall Insert: $15

Canvas Crew Carry All: $25

Ready to order?

Go to

Click on ORDER

Click on Sheryl’s name!

So Here is an example of my Introduction:

Hello everybody! My name is Melissa Fietsam, and I am an Independent Senior Executive Director with Thirty-One. I have been with the company for over 7 years. I absolutely love my job and want to introduce myself and Thirty-One. I have 5 crazy children and am married to my high school sweetheart. I am a retired Registered Nurse. I worked in the Emergency Room and taught LPNs on the side. I was able to supplement my income with Thirty-One, and now I’m a full-time mom and business owner!

I love Thirty-One because it gives women the freedom to pursue their dreams. It’s so much more than just a bag:) It’s all about celebrating, encouraging, and rewarding women. And I can’t wait to tell you more about it!

I love to give away prizes! And we will be giving away random prizes throughout the online portion of Kelly’s party! For each comment, post, or question…you’ll be entered to win! So let’s have some fun!!

JK. melissa

PARTY TIME>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>>

DAY 1:


I can’t wait to show you all the NEW with Thirty-One!! Who has been to a Thirty-One party before and who has never heard of Thirty-One?

And what’s this FB party all about?

  1. We will have a 7 day event!
  2. Give away some FREE prizes (3 Days of prizes)
  3. I’ll post lots of ideas for great products and how to use them
  4. And we’re going to help your hostess earn LOTS of free and half price items!
  5. And just have some FUN! That’s what this is all about, SIMPLE~EASY~FUN!

And if you have questions at any time, please let me know! I ❤ to answer questions



I’m going to introduce you to FIVE amazing customer specials and EXCLUSIVE NOVEMBER/DECEMBER PRODUCTS! For every $35 you spend, you get to choose up to to THREE of these for that special price!!



It’s time for the holidays! And that means lots of gifting ideas for you! Thirty-One has the perfect combination of GIFTS this season!

This is one of my all time favorite Christmas presents for the entire family. Don’t stress about buying separate gifts this year. Buy a FAMILY gift! They’ll be proud to sport their family name in an adorable bag full of FAMILY TIME!

~pick lots of easy and fun games to fill it with

~Fill it with $3 blankets from Walmart
~Movie theater candy from Walmart
~Some Netflix Gift Certificates
~And some popcorn!




So, I would love to learn a little more about everyone! One of the best parts of my job is getting to meet new friends every day! And not just in my hometown, but all over the United States. So tell me something about you and how you know the hostess:)

roll call


How many of you do a gift on Christmas Eve or have fun with the Elf on the Shelf? My kids LOVE getting their pajamas on Christmas Eve and we always have them in their own cinch sacs!

And if you do the Elf on the Shelf, you need to check out my Pinterest board full of some fun ideas!




I’m a baseball and basketball mom. So something that stands out to me, with Thirty-One, is their spirit line. We make sports fun on the sidelines and FUNctional for everyday use! I spend 3/4 my year sitting on bleachers, so I love looking cool while I’m cheering my babies on. Don’t tell my son I called him a baby. He’s 6 foot 3. LOL!

Are there any other sports moms out there? What sports do your kids play for?

It’s so fun to be able to put your kids’ jersey #’s or team names on these bags!


DAY 3:


I’m declaring January my BIGGEST fundraiser month in HISTORY! And I need YOU to pick what you would like to give back to! Did you know you can host a fundraiser with Thirty-One? You can choose a fundraiser for literally ANYTHING you want, and earn 30% of all sales from your catalog party, online party, or home show!

So what’s your passion?

-Your youth group?

-Your kids sports activities? I know my son’s baseball is $1200 per season. I can help you pay for that!

-Pageant fees?

-Adoption fees?

-School trips?



-An organization for cancer or Alzheimer’s?

What is your PASSION?

If you could do a fundraiser for anything you wanted, what would it be?



Let’s talk JEWELRY! Did you know Thirty-One has a line of jewelry in our catalog now? It’s called JK by Thirty-One. These are two of my very favorite necklaces!!! The Horizon and Enchanted Cross.

Go check out the catalog and tell me your favorite piece of jewelry on pages 45-48:



Let’s talk accessories! We have so many gifts that will fit your budget and your friends and family just perfectly!

Did you know that two of my favorite new products are $18 or under? The Uptown Mini Pouch will change your purse…and your life! I have TWO to organize everything in my purse! Makeup & First Aid. What else can you think to use that for?

My other favorite is the Letters to London. It fits your Driver’s License and a couple credit cards. It’s perfect to keep those separate so you don’t have to dig for those things you use daily. AND…it hooks right to a clip on almost every one of our purses!




One of my favorite EASY Christmas gifts this year has to do with GIFT CARDS! How many of YOUR friends give gift cards for the holidays?

We have this awesome item called Letters from London. And it is the perfect gift to put a GIFT CARD in! So they have something to keep all year long. I carry this with me everywhere! So whether they’re buying gifts or gift cards, you can earn YOUR Christmas gifts for FREE while helping your friends and family purchase their gifts with Thirty-One in an easy and fun way


DAY 4:


It’s not too late – get extra cash for Christmas with Thirty-One! How, you ask?
1. Join my team and get ALL of the stuff in the picture for only $99!
2. Tell EVERYONE you know that you’ve started a business and your launch party is NOW.
3. You’ll be seeing additional family & friends over Thanksgiving, right? Tell them to avoid the mall and shop with you!
4. Submit your launch party by November 30 and you will receive your commission on December 10th.
Want more details? Just ask! I’m here to help every step of the way. If you’re local, you can even borrow some of my products until your kit comes in. Easy peasy lemon squeezy.

Here’s a video I made that answers some frequently asked questions about joining Thirty-One. Check it out!

**And if you want more information, message me and I can mail you a packet to look over!

**enrollment kit comes with over $400 in product for just $99

If you had $300 extra a month…what would YOU use it for?



Let’s talk WALLETS! Every woman needs a good wallet. I’ve never really been in love with an inanimate object until I met two of these guys. What’s your favorite wallet? And can you guess which ones I’m cheating on my husband with? Seriously, I have a relationship with these wallets… 😉

Check out this quick video so you can see the Benjamin Wallet:




Funny thing happened, I went into Target and spent $100 the other day. When I got to the check out, I asked the lady what I got for being such a great customer. She looked at me kind of funny…I couldn’t tell whether she was reaching for her little walkie talkie or the pepper spray, so I let it go. LOL

I guess I’ve just been spoiled, because that’s the great thing about Thirty-One, for every $35 you spend…you get to pick up to THREE of these items at the special price!!

Check out this customer special video. Cause you may not KNOW that you need one yet…but you will after you watch this 30 second video:



DAY 5:


It’s so easy to party with me and Thirty-One when you have so many choices! All you need is $200 in orders to get FREE and HALF PRICE items and SO much more as a Thirty-One hostess! But that’s not all…message me to ask about the SPECIAL incentive for hostesses in January!

And I LOVE to celebrate and reward my hostesses!

An average Thirty-One party gets you:

$100 in FREE product

2 Half Off items

2 Hostess Exclusive Items

AND…the Hostess Customer Special for the month! Check out what January has in store for our hostesses!


Let’s talk HOME ORGANIZATION today!

On the left…

YOUR WAY CUBES to organize SHOES! I used to have a major shoe problem with 5 kids…love the 31 solution we came up with! Nice and neat! Now if I could just get my kids to put the shoes IN the box 😉

On the right…

YOUR WAY RECTANGLES: I took all their toys and sorted into boxes with LIDS: Legos, blocks, puzzle pieces, trains and train tracks, and of course cars!! It’s amazing how they stay off the floor. But not only that, when I do get them out, it’s a more FOCUSED play. It’s all right there, not lying all over the house. And best part…I’m not breaking my neck or puncturing my foot stepping on them every day!

OH SNAP POCKETS: Great for bills, mail, homework, school papers, and even bathrooms and offices!

YOUR WAY JR CUBES: these are great for storage of any kind. Pantries, toys, baby clothes, the list goes on and on!



So, I have kitchen issues. I wish that was all the issues I own, but this is a good start.

  1. Tupperware and lids. So these are my SANITY bins on the top. Literally, barely missed the straight jacket before I got these!
  2. SNACKS! My kids fought so bad over them. And…well…never mind. They still do. BUT…it looks cute. Now they want cameras installed in the kitchen to see who’s taking it out of their bin. LOL! So…could be costly in the long run, right?



GIVE A WAY TIME!!! One person who answers will get a gift from me in the mail!!

any item

DAY 6:


Comment DONE below after you fill this out and we will do a drawing tomorrow morning for one winner!!

FREE GIFT IN THE MAIL!! Do you ❤ FREE gifts? How about free gifts on your BIRTHDAY?! Fill out this 2 second survey and you will get a free gift in the mail during your birthday month!! I LOVE to celebrate my customers and hostesses! And this is just one way I get to say THANK YOU for supporting my business 🙂

 (((Link to my Birthday survey)) You can google my name and birthday survey to learn more 😉




Have you seen our new holiday line? Our guaranteed Christmas delivery cut off is December 10th. So you can do all or some of your Christmas shopping RIGHT HERE!

What is your favorite item from the new holiday line?

Who can you think of that would LOVE a personalized APRON for Christmas?




One of the best sets in the catalog! And the purse is REVERSIBLE!!! LOVE LOVE LOVE!! 5 of my favorite products in one picture!! I think this is your Christmas gift to YOU;)

Townsfair Reversible Purse (can be worn crossbody with skinny strap or over the shoulder)

Letters From London (coin purse)

Benjamins Wallet

Wristlet Strap

Rolling Jewel Wallet



Here’s some more great gift ideas for those ladies in your life. The uptown mini pouch is SO much fun! At $18, you can get one for all those ladies. And then fill it with some of YOUR favorites to make it a great personal gift.

~lip gloss

~hand lotion

~gift certificate to their favorite store

~your favorite fun make up


The Baubles & Bracelets is a great travel pouch for your jewelry or smaller makeup (or lip glosses if you’re a lip gloss addict like me). It has two straps to attach your earrings. And 3 pouches for necklaces, bracelets, charms, and anything else you want to keep protected. Also great to put a gift certificate in and let them have something to keep… long after that gift certificate is gone! This one is $20 and worth every penny!

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I would LOVE to stay in touch! You’ll be the first to know about hostess and customer specials! Hop on over there and request to join! What else can you expect from that group?

  1. Be invited to Outlet Sales a couple times a year where you can get Thirty-One items up to 70% off!
  2. Be entered into drawing several times a month, I LOVE to give away free goodies on there!
  3. Be the first to see the Thirty-One customer specials each month

**Just click on the link and request to join!


DAY 7:



Are you ready to place your order?

  1. Go to
  2. Click on ORDER
  3. Find your hostesses name
  4. And order away!

Or you can call or message me and I would be happy to place the order for you!

~Melissa Fietsam, Ind. Senior Executive Director




Let’s talk THERMAL! Everyone needs a thermal tote! These are so much fun to play with personalization! My all time favorite is NACHO LUNCH! ha! We have a thermal tote for all occasions and all sizes!

But here’s some just for YOU…

Here’s some other fun things to put on thermals, what else can you think of?

Do you have a Thirty-One thermal? What do YOU use it for?

Num Num Num


Got Food?

Got Bottles?

Lunch, Finally!



Out to Lunch

What Diet?

My Lunch

Just Chillin’

Lunch Time

Snack Attack



Our Organizing Utility Tote is one of the most versatile products in the catalog. Every member of my family uses one for various reasons. Here’s just a few! And when you purchase THIS bag for $35 you’re eligible for THREE of the customer specials! 

  1. BEST diaper bag EVER!
  2. Mobile office (add the fold n file for an even BETTER mobile office!)
  3. Overnight bag for teens
  4. Scrap booking supplies
  5. Bag for weekend at Grandmas
  6. Car emergency kit
  7. Sports Equipment
  8. Weather emergency kit



I just wanted to say THANK YOU for partying with me. And thank you for letting me share my love of Thirty-One with you.

I truly appreciate meeting new people and I’m so thankful for the support from all of my hostesses and their friends.  If there is anything I can do for you, please let me know. I would be happy to help in any way.

And now…it’s time to place your order, if you haven’t already! And don’t forget the customer special this month: For every $35 you spend, you can choose up to THREE of these:

Littles Carry All: $5

Mini zipper pouch: $5

Streetstyle purse: $25

Stand Tall Insert: $15

Canvas Crew Carry All: $25

Thanks a million for supporting your hostess this week!!

Smiles and Hugs,

Melissa Fietsam,

Ind. Senior Executive Director at Thirty-One Gifts

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So there it is. My complete 7 day Facebook party. I really hope this helps some consultants out there who are looking for the words to say. I hope this blesses someone a million times over!

Melissa Fietsam, Ind. Senior Executive Director at Thirty-One Gifts

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Personalized Promotion Gifts and Christmas Gifts

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My friend Vicky does these amazing blocks. She runs a business called BLOCKHEADS with her sister. I just LOVE what they do! They make great promotion gifts for anyone in Direct Sales:

Check out these blocks she does for anyone on my team who promotes to Senior Consultant. They are only $15!! And they’re priceless! I personally have know Vicky all my life. She was like a second mother to me. She is retired military and was my mom’s best friend. So she is well loved and trusted by me and my family and I highly recommend for her heart AND her work;) Click on any of the pictures below to go “like” their Facebook page so you can find her when you need her!


She can make these for any business, any promotion, and any color blocks that you need!


And they also specialize in personal blocks that make REALLY great personalized Christmas gifts for your friends, family, teachers, and loved ones!

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If you’d like to check out their Facebook page and place your own orders, head to BLOCKHEADS or simply click on any of the pictures above:

Melissa Fietsam, Ind. Senior Executive Director at Thirty-One Gifts

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Thirty-One Camp Kesem Fundraiser

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My friend Christine hosted a Fundraiser party and we were able to donate $500 to this AMAZING foundation!! Absolutely LOVE this part of my Thirty-One journey!

It is SO easy to give back to causes YOU believe in by hosting a Thirty-One show and letting your friends contribute to a great night of fun, laughter, and Thirty-One!! Thank you Christine for allowing me to be a part of your journey!


If you would like more information about this fundraiser, check out the link below!!

Melissa Fietsam, Ind. Senior Executive Director at Thirty-One Gifts

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Monday Tip for Your Thirty-One Business

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Shared with my team today:

I want you to pull out your hostess binder today.

1) Go to all your hostesses from January 2014-NOW.

2) Go to their Facebook page, find a post and COMMENT something meaningful on one of their pictures. Or maybe you can send them a quick text and let them know you were thinking of them.

**I’m doing all my home shows today. Catalog parties tomorrow. And fundraisers Wednesday. Because building relationships is one thing we often forget. Are your customers forgetting about YOU? What can you do to create some dialogue and just say hello to someone today?

**This has nothing to do with booking a party. This is simply saying, “hello. You matter to me”.

Melissa Fietsam, Ind. Senior Executive Director at Thirty-One Gifts

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4 Services You Will Eventually Need in Your Direct Sales Business

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4 Services you will eventually need in your direct sales business if you continue to push the envelope, your business continues to grow, and you’re seeming overwhelmed.

Let me just say first…I gain nothing from these 4 recommendations. The reason I am telling you about these 4 services is because I appreciate things and people who make my life easier. I appreciate good people with good intentions to share their gifts in a way to lift others up. These are 4 instances that I have personally come across with…in business and in person. In order for me to recommend something or someone, it takes a tall order and an insane amount of trust. I do not hand them out lightly. These people and businesses have touched my life. And I know they can touch yours.

You may not use these people or companies in particular. But my hope is that you recognize and give yourself permission to seek these services out when you get to the point that you are feeling overwhelmed. An NED with Thirty-One reached out to me recently and gave ME permission to spend more on help. She said someone once told her…if more money does not give you more TIME…then it’s not worth it. Now I probably just totally butchered what she said and her exact words…but it resonated with me. So I gave myself permission to delegate more tasks to people who are insanely capable of my high standards for my own business. So again, I simply want to give you permission to reach out for help when you get to that point.

These are 4 things that have moved my business to the next level. And I’m going to bore you to death explaining each one. And the ways each one changed my life.

  1. Personal Coaching
  2. Virtual Assistant
  3. Graphic/Flyer Designs
  4. Social Media Scheduling


Now I will be 100% honest with you and let you know I have never paid for an outside coach. But I have always had one with Thirty-One. I have had at least 7 different coaches and cherish 3 of those relationships. The others I kind of gave up on. You definitely have to find your match. You have to find someone who gets you. Who gets your personality and your life and is REAL. And GENUINE. And they’ll be worth every penny. As soon as I get a handle on this fall, I will personally be taking on some coaching with Angilee. Because I’m ready to get to the next level in my own business. And I know she can help me do that.

My very first coach was Angilee Myers. I started coaching with her as a Senior Director. The thing about Angilee is that she was a sounding board. She was my accountability and my focus. And she quickly became my friend. You can have all the ideas, the want, the passion, and the drive in the world. But if you can’t FOCUS that energy into a meaningful plan, it will end up driving you in circles. She walked me through my promotion to Executive Director and truly made a difference in my life. Whether it was family issues, work issues (non 31 related), or Thirty-One related…she walked me through it. And a good coach, has this amazing way of making YOU figure out your own plan. She brings out the best in you.

The great thing is, she’s officially coaching now. And if you need that focus, if you’re so overwhelmed you can’t think straight…it’s time to invest in a coach. I have never had anyone to refer people to, but I do now. Because I believe in her and what she can do for you. Because I saw it first hand.

Or maybe you’re looking to reach towards the next level in your career. Whether you’re scared, you’re excited, or you don’t know where to start…Angilee can help you walk through those waters!

Here is a little more about Angilee Myers and how you can contact her for your own coaching sessions, if and when, you ever feel like you’ve reached that point where you need help. Because we all need help sometimes. And this business is no joke. Direct Sales changes lives. And before you give up, or get so overwhelmed that this business becomes a burden instead of a passion, you need a coach to help you get your fire back and get back on the right track:

Angilee was a top performer in sales and recruiting when she was in the field. She sat on the Presidents Advisory Council for 2 years (max allowed) and helped develop countless training programs. She’s had years of corporate direct sales experience but fell in love with the marriage between coaching and performance. She is a certified Direct Sales Coach and a credentialed coach with the ICF. She currently has her ACC and is applying for her PCC this fall. (PCC requires over 700 logged hours of coaching – so she’s coached quite a bit!). She also helped launch the coaching program at Thirty-One and believes strongly that success in this business comes from family, work and life working together in harmony. “It can be simple easy and fun if we stay focused and go to work everyday! Personally, as you know, I have 5 big kids (4 in college this year), our bonus baby Will (2.5) and Aidan (1) who we will soon be adopting. 🙂 They are my joy and my why. I think I’m the best coach for DS leaders because, like you, I understand the chaos of life and the importance of getting a lot done effectively.” 

Angilee Myers contact information:


2. Virtual Assistant:

First of all, what is a virtual assistant and why would you need one? And when would you need one? And how would you find one? I simply want to help you understand a little more of my world. You all see me doing amazing things in my business, but I’ve never really laid it all out there. I have help. I have chosen a path of serving others. Of serving my team. And that passion takes a lot of my time. So in order to do that, I had to have help. I am blessed with two amazing assistants. And I also have my team newsletters done through a newsletter service.

One…is not for hire:) Her name is Brenda. And that poor woman has enough to handle with me. I recently decided to unload A LOT of work on Brenda. Why? Because I was drowning. I maintained my business with minimal services from my virtual assistants for a long time. But in this past year, my PV (personal sales volume) has doubled. And my team hit million dollar team (because they’re awesome like that). And I made PAC (Presidential Advisory Council). And my amount of home parties and hostesses has doubled or really tripled. But in all that success, I was slipping. I was missing things. I was dropping the ball. And I was miserable in all my success. And then that NED gave me permission to use my profits to give me more time to do the things I am so passionate about. To do the things that only I can do. And it is not easy giving up control. But man was it worth it. Brenda is good people. And a good friend. It’s amazing how God brings people into your life that you could never do without. She helps me run my personal business while I concentrate on our amazing team.

Now, Jackie Abrams is also an assistant of mine. And dear friend. We have been friends for about 7 years I think? This poor woman lives about 5 blocks from me. And she was my main assistant for years! Then she began her own career as a full-time virtual assistant. Jackie is simply what I call “good people”. And that’s a pretty elite group in my world. Not many people get that “token” 😉

So anyways! Jackie has a client base where she runs various tasks for people all over the country. What does she do for me?

She makes and sends hostess packets. I book a party, I email her and say here ya go, and she puts it together and mails it. She sends my happy mail and my birthday club post cards each month now too. And she rescues me when I’m drowning with just about anything. She knows this business inside and out and can help in so many ways.

But how do you know when you need an assistant?

~When you’re miserable. when you’re dropping the ball and missing things that you shouldn’t be. When your team is getting left behind because you can’t keep up with your own business. Or maybe you just want to step your business up a little. Relieve some of the work you do, so you can step things up a notch on recruiting and sales and booking. I was ok managing 6-10 parties a month. Once I started hitting more…I could not keep up personally. And maybe some women can. But I cannot. I work on too many other projects that require my time also. Not to mention my 5 kids and my husband who would all like to see their mother/wife every now and then:)

And what can they do for you?

Anything that doesn’t require personal attention. Hostess packets, invitations, newsletters, stats, surveys, emails, scheduling things, flyers, events, labeling catalogs, going to the post office, mailing things…these are things that can be done by someone else. YOU need to be doing things in your business that will result in booking, recruiting, and sales. And those things require your personal attention. If you’re so busy dealing with things that could be done by someone else, that you’re dropping the ball…it’s time to get an assistant.

Or maybe you’re simply not consistent. Find someone who is GOOD at organization and a good assistant will whip you into to shape and make you like like a million bucks;)

How do you go about finding one?

You ASK. I found Jackie by asking my friends and my team. I found Brenda by asking my friends and my team. And I couldn’t live without either one of them at this point. And if they can put up with me, they’re worth their weight in gold;) Some can come to your house if you want them to, others can work completely online. You simply ship them the materials they need to support your business. Maybe you could start delegating tasks like hostess packets and labeling catalogs to an older child of yours, a local teenager, or a family member. Whatever you do, I promise you’ll be glad they helped get you on track.

How much are you going to pay for a virtual assistant?

It depends entirely on what you need. They go by services. My advice to you is to start SMALL. Take one task and find someone to help. And then as you feel comfortable and build that trust and relationship, you can add more. You would be very surprised to find how affordable good help is. I encourage you to look into it when you start to feel like you are drowning.

Jackie Abrams has my golden seal and provides these services and much more. Her contact information and list of “help I’m drowning” is below. This is a list of the basic services she (or any virtual assistant if you train them) can help you with:

Jackie Abrams:


Create Monthly Newsletters  : to Gen 0 and /or Directors

Sending Birthday Postcards and Anniversary postcards monthly (using yours or mine)

Making recruiting packets (can do via long distance thru e-files and post office) monthly fee applies but will charge you for postage

Making hostess packets(can do via long distance thru e-files and post office) monthly fee applies but will charge you for postage

Making guest packets(can do via long distance thru e-files and post office) monthly fee applies but will charge you for postage

Labeling all catalogs and mini’s(can do via long distance thru e-files and post office)

Making goody bags for marketing(via mail)*

Taking t-shirt orders( collecting money and shipping)*

Special projects/mailings*

Event planning- i.e.: Director Powerhouse*

Analyzing Down line stats ( I send you a Monday update )

GO Analysis (send at beginning of month)

Weekly update to team (“Wednesday  Woo-Hoo”)

Tracking team incentives and mailing postcards/ gifts to winners(Qualified/Start Swell/VIP)

Planning for Celebrate and Connect Meetings (can do e-vites)

Tracking/Categorizing tax documents/receipts

Facebook shout outs to incentive winners, VIP’s, $1000 above sales, etc.

CER: on Facebook or through mail

Send New Consultant postcards/Welcome emails

Send At Risk email each month

Mailing Hostess Thank you cards.

Big Contacts: Can Import Contacts, Do Task Lists, Send emails,

Newsletters start at $15 per month; Wednesday Woohoo’s are $5 per month. Most of the other services are $2.50 each or 2/$5. unless marked by an asterisk . I am pretty open to trying new things so if you have a service that you would like me to do to help your business out, please contact me. I am here to help you make your life easier!

I also have to give a shout out to Amy at Crown Virtual Services. She has been doing my newsletters for quite a long time. And she is FLAWLESS and AMAZING and AFFORDABLE. I believe her newsletters start out at $18 a month. And if anyone struggles with newsletters…Amy and her company are truly amazing! She does newsletters and various other things to help your business too!

You can find her Facebook page at:

3. Graphic and Flyer Designs:

You know…I’m not too bad at graphics. I can make what I need. But it takes me FOREVER. And it’s never as good as someone who does this for a living or holds this God-given talent. I can assure I do not hold that talent from God. I was not blessed with it. I’ve had to research and trial and error SO much. And I wasted a lot of time.

My dear friend and team-mate Bridgett Edwards is a Godsend. She is an amazing graphic designer who helps our team beyond anything I can ever repay. But she also works. And has a family. And a life. LOL!

So I made the decision to start shipping this task out. I found someone who I like, I trust, and I can give them a chicken scratch idea and they get my scribbles and my brain. Kim from Night Owl Custom Design is affordable, reliable, and well worth her weight in gold to me.

I can send her an idea for a label and it costs me $8. $8 for a label that i need right away. That i would spend hours doing myself and it still wouldn’t look half as good as hers when i was done. So why waste my time? Why not support another woman owned business? it’s a smart investment. Work smarter. Not harder. She can literally do anything with designs. Post cards, business cards, flyers, you name…she can do it.

So go check out her page and stop beating yourself up and making the EXCUSE that you don’t have cute stuff. Cause you CAN. And it’s affordable. She makes people look GOOD:


4. Social Media Scheduling:

If you are doing Facebook parties and posts to twitter and Facebook and your team pages and customer pages…and the list goes on and on…you NEED to be on

This site allows you to schedule posts to your social media sites on YOUR TIME. I can schedule 15 Facebook parties in ONE setting. One post can go to 15 parties. You schedule the time and the date. And it posts for you. This site is truly a Godsend to my business. I can be eating dinner, or on vacation, or outside with my babies while Facebook parties are going on and making me $$$. There’s nothing more golden than time, right? Well, cinchshare gives you that time. It allows you to work on YOUR time.

And when I first started using it, I emailed the “help me” button simply to say THANK YOU. I feel in love immediately with the ease and burden it took off of me. And I quickly built a business relationship with a couple of the founders because they’re simply those “good people” I keep telling you about. They’re women entrepreneurs who were in this business and saw a NEED and answered it. And they’re rock solid. I have NEVER had a problem with this site. And it just keeps getting better and better. I highly encourage you to take a look at it and see what it can do for you.

Again, I receive no royalties or paychecks from them. I simply believe in them and their company and their mission. Their hard work has paid off in this amazing social media tool. And I’m very happy to spread that love of what they do. Because their company (and them) have blessed my life ten fold.

So there you go! I may look like Wonder Woman on the outside looking in. But I can assure you I am NOT. I know my strengths and I surround myself with people who are better at the things I am NOT. We all need help sometimes. Me, I need help ALL the time. LOL! But I simply wanted to give you permission and tell you it’s OKAY if you can’t do it all! You don’t have to! There’s some amazing people out there that can help you. And it may not be one of the people or companies above. And that’s ok. But know your limit and search for some help when the need arises!


~Melissa Fietsam, Ind. Senior Executive Director at Thirty-One Gifts

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